You always hear men either bragging about or worrying about the size of their member, but what happens when it’s too big? Is there such a thing? Believe it or not, women are often searching for answers about how to enjoy a partner that’s larger than average. Penetrative sex can become painful -- which can cause anxiety that puts a serious damper on libido. If you’re struggling to enjoy sex with your well-endowed partner there are ways to work around any issues of size. It just takes a little extra consideration. Let’s take a look at our top tips!
First Of All -- Play It Safe!
There could be an array of reasons you’re experiencing pain during penetrative sex -- from lack of lubrication to a more serious condition. Make an appointment to get checked out with your gynecologist just to rule out any medical problems like cysts or infections. It’s better to be safe than sorry -- trust us!
If the main issue is size and there are no underlying medical conditions at play, it’s time for an honest conversation with your partner. He doesn’t want to hurt you -- and if he’s worth your time he wants to make the experience as pleasurable for you as possible! Work together to make things better for both of you.
Foreplay All Day
Don’t forget that vaginas were made to expand to let a baby pass through! In most cases, the vaginal canal can expand to accommodate any size member. However, this process requires maximum arousal -- which usually means time. However long you and your partner spend on foreplay, double up on it. Triple up on it, even! Make sure you take the time you need to really rev your engines because it will only help your body get ready for him to enter your paradise. Better yet -- have an orgasm before penetration -- because if you’re not turned on enough, it’s not going to work!
It’s Better When It’s Wetter
Lube up! Even if wetness isn’t your issue, some extra lubrication can provide a bit more comfort. Slather your man up so he can easily slip in. You can also try a high quality Hemp based lubricant -- they’re specially formulated to activate the cannabinoid receptors in your lady bits to help ease discomfort, help you relax, and increase the pleasure of your experience.
Every body has its own unique shape so various positions will feel different for different people. Play around and find out what works best for you. If length is your main issue, opt for positions that allow full thrusting with shallow penetration to prevent him from hitting your cervix -- like spooning or having him enter you while you lay flat on your stomach. If your legs are together that should limit his depth in any position. You can also try the coital alignment technique where thrusting motions are replaced with gently rocking together to encourage clitoral stimulation. The key here is to experiment!
When our bodies react to fear it actually causes us to tighten our pelvic floor. It’s a way that our bodies try to protect us from harm -- but this can actually cause a lot of distress in the bedroom. A painful past experience can lead to fear and anticipation of a current attempt which will only take you away from pleasure. If you’re wrapped up in your head with worries, then you won’t be in the moment with your partner -- and let’s face it: pleasurable sex is as much dependent on our mind as it is our bodies. Before getting intimate take some time to relax, have some deep breaths, and unwind any way you like. Get your head ready to have fun so you’re not distracted when the time comes.
Sex should be a fun and blissful experience. Whatever the issue you should never have to brace yourself and bear it. Communicate openly and honestly with your partner and work together to make it fantastic -- because you deserve pleasure!